Most people never really change. They are feathers in the wind, letting life blow them from place to place, letting circumstances and other people decide where they end up. They never consciously try to improve themselves, all of their improvements happen coincidentally or through great suffering. They make mistakes, but never really learn from them, and make the same mistakes again and again. They aren’t trying to improve themselves every day, trying to become a better and more capable person than they were before.
You know those people who, after a couple of years of not seeing someone, say that they haven’t changed at all. They see this as something positive, but let me tell you, it’s not. It means this person has remained stagnant, that he hasn’t learned, and that he hasn’t evolved. This stagnation stands synonymous with decay, you’re either growing, or you’re dying, there’s no in-between.
You want to be a totally different person ten years from now, a year from now, or even a month from now. You should be constantly trying to improve yourself, challenging your beliefs, analyzing yourself and your thoughts, and seeing what could be better.
Why most people never change and improve, is because they don’t self-analyze. How can you improve when you don’t reflect on your previous behavior and see what could be better? When you don’t look at the mistakes you’ve made and think about how you can avoid them, you’ll keep repeating them.
This is not what we want. We want to learn from our mistakes, make sure we never make them again, and constantly improve ourselves so we keep making fewer and fewer mistakes, becoming better and better.
Ruthless self-analysis is crucial to becoming the best possible version of yourself. You should constantly seek improvement, doesn’t matter if it’s some tiny action that you could do better, or something large. Not self-analysing is a death sentence to your progress. In this blog, we’ll go over what happens when you do not self-analyze, and then we’ll go into how you can self-analyze and what the exact benefits are.
What happens when you don't analyze your own behavior?
A lot of people are literally stumbling through life. They are feathers in the wind, getting blown from place to place by life and circumstances, not having any control over what they do or where they end up. This happens because these people do not analyze their behavior, and it results in them making the same mistakes again and again, not seeing what they are doing wrong at all. When you can't see the mistakes you're making, you can't fix them or prevent them from happening again. You can't fix a problem if you're not aware of it, so awareness of the problem is the first step. You get this awareness by self-analysis, looking at what happened, what your stake in it was, and looking at what went well, and what went wrong.
Why don't more people do this? Well, there are multiple reasons.
Partly it's arrogance, they can't admit that they made a mistake because that makes them look bad, also it's insecurity: it makes them look even worse to themselves, because admitting fault will hurt their fragile ego.
But most importantly, it's fear. The fear of confronting yourself and facing the facts, stepping out of that dream world you've created for yourself where you are a hero, and realizing that you are not. Self-analysis is hard because it makes you confront yourself in the hardest possible way. We already hate it when others critique us, let alone when we must critique ourselves, so we tend to avoid it. We prefer living in the dreamland we have constructed for ourselves. But the only way we’re going to genuinely improve our lives and make sure that we stop making mistake after mistake, is by confronting the fact that we do make mistakes and have to improve, and we do this by analyzing ourselves.
Once you are willing to step out of this dream world, and face your fears and insecurities, you can start by analyzing yourself and your behavior. Let's look at how you can self-analyze, and what benefits self-analysis provides.
How to analyze your behavior:
How do you actually put this into action, how do you self-analyze yourself?
Well, firstly you have to keenly observe, it's observing your own reactions, the reactions of others, the consequences of your actions, what you did and what you didn't do, etc. You first have to gather as much information as possible before you start analyzing it.
The more information you gather about yourself and your environment, the better and more accurate your analysis will be.
After you've gathered all of this information, it is time to analyze it. You look at what your actions were and how the world responded to them. Was the response positive or negative? If it was positive, then you can most likely repeat this type of behavior because it gets you results. If the behavior was negative, then it becomes more interesting. Now you can look at why it didn't go so well. What was it that created the negative response?
This is a process called the scientific method, it’s how scientists test a theory. They come up with a theory, and then they test it. When the result is positive, the theory is most likely correct. When the result is negative, then you have to adjust the theory and come up with other ideas. This is how you perform self-analysis.
What you do after a negative response is to brainstorm ideas on how you can get a positive instead of a negative response, and you try some of them out. You see if the idea you came up with works. If it does, then you can use this idea more often and keep it in your arsenal. If it didn't work and you again get a negative response, then you know that the idea didn't work and you have to get back to the drawing board, coming up with a new theory and testing that out. The more bad attempts you make, the more information you gather, and the more accurate the information, the more likely you are to come up with the correct solution.
The result of self-analysis:
When you start analyzing your behavior, you can actually change and improve it, and adjust when necessary. When you are constantly correcting your mistakes and testing out what works and what doesn’t, you’ll start to make fewer and fewer mistakes. Suddenly you’re not as clumsy or as stupid anymore as you were before, you’ve evolved.
When you self-analyze everything you do, every tiny action or environmental response, the tiny improvements you make will start to compound. At the start, you won’t notice that big of a difference, you make just a little less mistakes, but after a while of doing this, you’ll start to see significant improvements in your behavior. Suddenly you notice that you’ve improved a ton, that people start to treat you differently, that you can hold your own in situations. This is all the result of tiny changes made in your behavior over a long period of time, you won’t recognize yourself anymore when you look back after a year of performing self-analysis.